COMMUNITY life has,
since the industrial revolution, been dominated in Great Britain by
the demands of the economic system to the virtual exclusion of other
social considerations. Child rearing, home and family care have
continued to play an essential part in meeting the needs of
individuals. But the economic system has registered only the costs of
breakdown and remedial actions. In the same way as economists have
only recently, and marginally, come to account the destruction of the
environment and the exhaustion of the earth's scarce resources, the
development of affective and social skills through traditional forms
of home and family care has been taken for granted and subtly
devalued.
Males and feminists
alike have, for their different reasons, combined to underplay and
undermine the significance of family care in introducing new members
to the social community of human beings. The strength of the backlash
against this erosion of family life can be seen in the vigour of the
growth in support for fundamentalist religions. Beyond those narrow
confines, home care, child care and the traditional skills of
mothering have been denigrated and debased. Parenting and child care
have been demoted to a spare time activity outside working hours, to
be delegated wherever possible to low paid substitutes. In this way,
traditionally male concern with production of statistically
verifiable material wealth has been accepted as the sole significant
form of human activity. The need for love, care and affection is
appreciated only at the point of personal breakdown, when expensive
specialists are consulted.
Traditionally feminine
concerns have so far eluded the androcentric comprehension which
dominates all forms of academic and educational structures in
society. The psychologists — and there have been many of them, and
of both sexes — who record the infant's ambivalence towards its
mother could, perhaps, with more accuracy be said to be recording the
results of the untypical mother's ambivalence towards her child.
Mothering in human beings is a socially sensitive activity, and
Western society has, since the onset of the industrial revolution,
placed the rearing of children under peculiar constraints.
Taking the lead from
classical economists, backed up by cynical psychologists, we in the
West have come to doubt the sincerity of those who offer love and
affection. The ideal role model of the tender and caring mother —
or father — has been replaced by the young, fit, healthy,
role-playing, 25 year old male, in economic employment and without
ties or responsibilities. By contrast, the woman who cares, be it for
an elderly relative, a child — her own, or that of another who has
suffered mental or physical abuse,— or her sick or disabled
husband, child or parent, is designated a person of low status, her
needs ignored in terms of community support, and her economic
independence removed from any guarantees. Following the industrial
revolution, family life has come to be curiously dependent upon wage
earning, that is, upon the economic rewards to labour as a factor of
production.
The reward given to
labour bears no relationship whatsoever to the economic needs of the
family. Further, it takes no account of the work involved in
household tasks, work which recent International Labour Office
estimates show consumes at least as many working hours as are spent
in paid employment. This supportive work is acknowledged to be
essential in servicing the workers, that is, in attending to their
essential needs for food, clothing, shelter and leisure. The very
existence of labour, an essential factor of production in economic
terms, is dependent upon the satisfaction of those needs. Housework
is, however, excluded from economic calculations in the same way as
nature's gifts are assumed to be free, simply because they do not
occur as a result of financial considerations. A mother does not —
normally — wait to be paid to look after her baby. Yet it is this
very absence of economic motivation which demotes an activity in
Western eyes. 'If a job is worth doing, it is worth being paid to do
it', is the current rule of thumb. As a result, mothering and caring
generally are classed as menial tasks, to be delegated to others
wherever possible for a financial consideration.
It is, however,
becoming clear [in 1988] that child-rearing practices based on the
economic needs of the parents are giving grounds for concern. Parents
return from work to tackle household and child care responsibilities
in their 'spare' time, often many miles away from otherwise
supportive grandparents. In attempting to side-step the demands of
children for attention and affection, busy parents offer the passive
and undemanding viewing of television rather than embark upon
traditional forms of interactive play, talking and reading together.
The significance of the incalculable numbers of hours of shared
activity of children and adults spent in the recounting of nursery
rhymes, tales and games combined with routine household tasks, has
been seriously undervalued. These activities, essential in the
formation of self-esteem and self awareness, have fallen into disuse
in many families. So, too, have forms of children's free peer group
play in streets and open spaces near to home. Traffic and other
modern dangers have eroded ancient childhood rights, restricting in
an unprecedented way children's freedom to develop a sense of
personal awareness, place and community. The middle-aged and elderly
of today [1988], from even the most inner city areas, can recall
childhood excursions to open countryside and areas of woodland in the
company of siblings and friends, and an ease of access to shops and
houses of relatives in nearby streets which is rarely possible today.
The resultant frustration and alienation demonstrated in adolescent
behaviour stems directly from this absence of an early sense of
belonging to family and to community.
Human beings are more
than mere units of labour, cogs in the economic production machine.
Material wealth is very limited as a means for satisfying human
wants. Labour saving devices have not, according to recent studies,
cut down the number of hours devoted to housework. They have, in
fact, increased the total number of hours of work in the home, as
expectations have been raised and the machines themselves require
attention. Further, the time spent earning money to pay for the
machines has increased, as have other associated expenses. Rudolph
Bahro, the West German 'Green', has presented a vivid image in
commenting that 'today we spend ten times as much energy for a worker
to be able to sit in front of the TV in the evenings with his bottle
of beer as we needed in the eighteenth century for Schiller to create
his life's work'.
The ability of the
earth to tolerate the ever expanding demands of human beings for
continued economic growth is being seriously brought into question in
terms of the exhaustion of the finite resources of the earth, and the
as yet only partially understood effects of the pollution of the
land, seas and atmosphere. It may be time to look more seriously at
the development of the human intellect and the human community, as a
substitute for the continued demand for material wealth. In reality,
consumer commodities have never been more than a means to an end, as
King Midas found out so long ago.
Despite the wisdom of
the ancients, material wealth remains the predominant pre-occupation
of our time. Few would fail to wince at the idea of handing a highly
priced Ming vase to a person with no conception of its value, who
might well drop it, or throw it in the dustbin. Yet many a human
infant's life chances are far less well protected than those of a
Ming vase. Attempts are made to patch up some of the most disastrous
mistakes in child care, and the expensive services of highly-trained
specialists may be lavished upon children whose lives have been
shattered by parental neglect, physical, mental or sexual abuse. But
beyond this largely futile gesture, society on the whole places a low
value on child care and spends few resources in the preparation of,
and support for, adults in their responsibilities as parents. If
anything, the economic system has quietly encroached upon and
undermined the status and skills of those who do attempt to care.
Some would, however,
accept that each human infant is indeed more precious than the most
expensive vase on earth. When one considers that fifty per cent of a
child's intellectual potential is developed before the age of five
years, and that the foundations are laid in those early years for his
or her artistic and emotional life, the lack of training and support
in parenthood is astonishing. This deprivation applies not only in
inner city areas, where temporary accommodation and a background of
unsettled family life has been inherited by successive generations of
parents since the early days of the industrial revolution. Parents in
the affluent professional classes enter parenthood in a haze of equal
ignorance, ignorance which they themselves would consider horrific in
a fellow professional embarking upon a professional task. With
smaller families, and geographic mobility which has split the
extended family, it is not at all uncommon for a couple's own baby to
be the very first they have ever held in their hands, and for their
knowledge of the needs of a toddler or young child to be virtually
non-existent.
So bemused have we
become with the significance of economic growth that we fail even to
consider the allocation of resources to the care and nurture of
infants and young children. In a haphazard way families have little
option but to choose between a series of unsatisfactory strategies in
deciding their child care methods. Where both parents wish to remain
in economic employment, the parents may decide to pay for the child
to be cared for by a non-family member during working hours. The
primary duty of this stranger, brought into the child's life on a
temporary basis, is to oversee the physical welfare of the child. The
relationship between the family and the stranger will cease when
their services are no longer required, even where a strong bond may
have developed between the child and the carer.
If, on the other hand,
parents decide that their child needs continuity of care and
affection, and that home and family should weigh more heavily than
purely financial considerations, the family faces a further series of
unexpected hurdles.
There is considerable
pressure upon women in particular to consider that child care is no
more than a matter of providing for the physical comfort of an infant
up to the age of five years. Beyond that age it is considered that
children are off the parents' hands, as they enter formal schooling,
and embark on the processes of training to themselves become units of
labour in the economic machine. With the trend towards smaller
families, women are encouraged to think that parenting is no more
than a minor hiccup in the working life of an adult, taking up a mere
3% of a normal working life. Nothing could be further from the truth.
A child is a lifetime's commitment, altering the relationships
between the parents, grandparents, siblings, not to mention the child
itself, within the family and the community. A child forms a unique
link between present and future generations. Further, a child
requires a sense of place and personal identity if it is to develop
into a mature and responsible adult, willing and able to work with
others for the good of the community, and capable of actions beyond
the narrowest pursuit of adolescent self-interest.
Perhaps it is time to
look again at the fragmentation of family and community life which
has resulted from the pursuit of pure materialism, and to consider
forms of training for child care and design of communities based on
more truly human, as opposed to economic, values. Women who have
remained in the home and in the community may well prove to be a most
valuable, and hitherto undervalued, source of knowledge and
associated with child care and homemaking. There is, however,
increasing economic pressure militating against the dissemination of
these traditional skills. It may be necessary to mount a new
conservation campaign to prevent the total extinction of human values
in Western society.
"The
Midas Touch" by Frances Hutchinson was first published in
Contemporary Review, Vol. 253 No. 1471. August 1988, pp80-83.